Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone.
He’s going to wonder how, after two dinners and one museum trip, you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend. As easy as it would be to base every opinion you have on an experience you had with a guy or listen to your best guy friend’s advice, not all men are the same.
This is not good for you or the newfound relationship.Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.” Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create a sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends. While you might think it is cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it!